- punish the bad behavior
- give lectures when someone screws up
- join accountability groups to stop us from relapsing
- use self control
- don't do bad things
- sign pledges/employee contracts saying you won't do certain things
This all seems harmless enough, until you consider that every aspect of this worldview forces us to spend considerable amounts of time thinking on the bad things we will no longer be doing.
We focus on the behavior we want to control.
And there is a truth that we can't deny: We become what we behold. Whatever we spend time thinking on, looking at, is what we will reproduce.
Here's a new idea that I would like to propose. Instead of focusing on the bad things, what if we used the good to force out the bad?
To get rid of the bad, focus on strengthening the good.
I consider my front lawn, currently a mix of moss and grass. I have used soap sprays, moss killer, rakes, everything I could think of to kill the moss. I only want grass.
I did some research. The best way to maintain a strong and healthy lawn, is to have the strongest, thickest, healthiest lawn possible. The denser your grass roots, the thicker the covering, the less space there is for something like moss or weeds or dandelions to force their way in.
An overwhelming presence of the positive, will allow no room for the negative to remain.
- What positive traits can you build up today?
- What ways can you encourage the potential in others today?
- What ways can you teach others to focus on the good things in life today?
- In work, or in your family, what bad things have you been trying to force out through discipline and lectures?
- And then, how can you force those bad things out by creating an environment where good things flourish?
Get creative in your approach to focusing on the good. The results may surprise you.